In the end, Grandma no longer wanted things. I found this realization unsettling when I took her to a antique mall in the months before she died.
Grandma, the tireless deal seeker and consummate shopper refused my attempts to buy her even the smallest token to remember our visit.
Instead, every time I saw her in those last years she seemed intent on giving her belongings away. Sentimental old letters and pictures. Pieces of costume jewelry.
“Go ahead Les, pick something out,”
she’d say as she lugged an old, deformed cardboard box down her hallway.
And I would glance at my Mom, feeling very uncomfortable. Taking something meant acknowledging that she was going somewhere and I didn’t want to.
Grandma was in her eighties and still going strong. I couldn’t imagine her suddenly being gone.
But at the same time, I could tell she was perfectly serious.
This was Grandma’s way of passing on a connection and I understood this.
After she passed away my Mom brought over her cake pedestal and told me that Grandma had wanted me to have this. Grandma was famous for baking her chocolate cakes and her specialty cheesecake and giving these away.
Apparently the saleswomen at Macy’s Department Store used to know Grandma from her baked goods, as we discovered after her death.
And so this cake pedestal was a wonderful reminder of how she lived, of her spunky spirit and her generosity.
And I was so delighted to have it.
As valuable as it is to me, I’ve decided to bring it out and use it around my kitchen, with or without the cake…
Life’s too short to keep waiting for that special occasion. Don’t you think?
Today is October 4th.
Can you find a way to use something that matters to you?
Thanks for joining me on Day 4!
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