tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post8635003104053801641..comments2024-03-17T05:43:47.360-07:00Comments on Gwen Moss: How to take care of yourself from the inside out; 3 thingsLeslie Harrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06367872267145012395noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-44670465283881081482019-10-18T05:42:11.633-07:002019-10-18T05:42:11.633-07:00"To those who understand, no explanation is n..."To those who understand, no explanation is necessary; to those who don’t understand, no explanation is sufficient." – unknown<br /><br />I always come back to this quote. It is next to impossible for some people to know/understand that what they say to a grief stricken person at best falls flat and at worst is actually hurtful. I try to remember that people are doing the best they can with what they know. And if they haven't been through something like this they think they are helping when in actuality the best thing would be to say nothing and instead just do something: listen, give a hug, be there, send a card, give a small gift or meal. <br /><br />After losing my son I have become much more fearless as my thinking is "I've been to hell so what are you going to do to me that is worse? There is nothing worse."Jeanninehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08899506698574749866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-25093249780180235762019-10-17T12:44:34.463-07:002019-10-17T12:44:34.463-07:00Sometimes, certain people do not know how to react...Sometimes, certain people do not know how to react and what to say to a grieving person. So they may blurt things out without thinking and to avoid awkward silences. I've learnt that sometimes a simple hug is so much more meaningful than a litany of words.Loreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12520908604580765632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-78149650503174072862019-10-17T10:55:25.839-07:002019-10-17T10:55:25.839-07:00You take my breath away. Maybe one day your words ...You take my breath away. Maybe one day your words will turn into a book to help light the way for others.Sandra Sallinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06853782534505854205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-39904305544698009382019-10-17T00:14:46.279-07:002019-10-17T00:14:46.279-07:00Sarah, Karen, and Gayle have worded my very though...Sarah, Karen, and Gayle have worded my very thoughts, and I sometimes have a hard time expressing them to you, for you. Your posts are powerful and raw and take my mind and heart to places I don't know but fear in my gut. Yes, take me, not my child. I'll take a bullet for you, I'll throw my body down over yours no matter the circumstances...<br /><br />You are living a parent's worst nightmare, yet you are sharing, in your own true voice, what the whole journey has been and what you fear and wholly anticipate in every day ahead. You have a strong message and I think we not only feel a true sense of your grief, we tuck it into our pocket, as we know one day it could be one of us.<br /><br />Love you so much, Leslie...<br /><br />Jane ❤️ Blondie's Journalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12988377413260331618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-50162183203708719812019-10-16T14:32:07.556-07:002019-10-16T14:32:07.556-07:00You are amazing, so loving, talented and helpful. ...You are amazing, so loving, talented and helpful. I just found you yesterday through Rough Luxe. I had no idea what I would read and how much your words help and will heal me. I will share your posts with my family who have lost a young boy to suicide and too many loved ones from cancer. Thank you.gaylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06401673964510754005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-1782237977247364022019-10-16T11:03:31.833-07:002019-10-16T11:03:31.833-07:00Dear Leslie,
Thank you for sharing your heart. You...Dear Leslie,<br />Thank you for sharing your heart. You have a gift of sharing honesty. I appreciate it so much. <br />Sending prayers and hugs,<br />Carla<br />Carla from The Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12107829617899979937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-75280578979085571182019-10-16T09:48:41.040-07:002019-10-16T09:48:41.040-07:00Oh Leslie. I can't begin to imagine what you ...Oh Leslie. I can't begin to imagine what you were feeling during that awful conversation with your neighbor. I am so sorry it happened. This post was so raw and real...you opened my eyes with the first statement from Megan Levine. It really does make you realize that the false face we walk around with to the world, isn't always helping us in the long run. I wish I could hug you, sweet friend. Please know I am sending love right now.Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090973681675943970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-3763002836432528262019-10-16T09:43:25.982-07:002019-10-16T09:43:25.982-07:00I read this last night on my phone.
AM I understan...I read this last night on my phone.<br />AM I understanding that this is a Neighbor of yours who told YOU this story?Who knows what YOU have been through?<br />People Never STOP AMAZING ME!Perhaps in her mind she was HELPING YOU?!!!Or pointing out the difference between YOU and This lady............as she has NO idea from experience?<br />YOU CAN BE RUDE AND CUT PEOPLE OFF!<br />NO One is GOING TO PUT YOU IN TIME OUT for NOT LISTENING!<br />GEESH................happy YOU shared your thoughts and feelings and of course this will HELP MORE THAN ONE PERSON!<br />KEEP WRITING ABOUT IT!IT IS GOOD FOR YOU AND OTHERS TO READ!<br />BIG HUG,<br />XOXOXLa Contessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01682902106545680159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-38266203225139777382019-10-16T07:47:58.903-07:002019-10-16T07:47:58.903-07:00Leslie,
Your journey has shed light on how grievin...Leslie,<br />Your journey has shed light on how grieving can manifest itself. I understand everyone is different but you've done such a wonderful job of explaining your feelings that it's been eye-opening and I feel like I have a better understanding of how loss can be, the trials and tribulations of life after losing someone so dear. It sounds like your family and friends are there for you and that must help some. Still, I'm happy you share some of what goes on with your readers. We all benefit is some way.<br />xo,<br />KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08064699521293763744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-65423541769027860472019-10-16T06:25:27.151-07:002019-10-16T06:25:27.151-07:00I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for help...I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for helping me.sydney85https://www.blogger.com/profile/17291667006626871713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-79203962882986587292019-10-16T02:36:43.182-07:002019-10-16T02:36:43.182-07:00I have never commented before...but was compelled ...I have never commented before...but was compelled to after your post. I am in awe of your ability to make this post such a teaching moment for all of us. Thank you for sharing your pain. I wish I could help.<br />AliUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01087735525738707731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-88567327124701607092019-10-15T22:44:31.693-07:002019-10-15T22:44:31.693-07:00Leslie, writing is one of your talents. I admire ...Leslie, writing is one of your talents. I admire that you can focus your thoughts of all this and put it all into words. I admire you in so many ways. You've laid out your pain; your words are raw and truth. I'm not a professional, but I feel your writing and sharing is a healthy component of this horrific journey. Sharing your wisdom edged with pain will help so many. You are the dearest! Sending you a hug.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16287885364919636589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-6199573265204206752019-10-15T19:24:42.318-07:002019-10-15T19:24:42.318-07:00P s
No one knows what it is like in that rowboat ...P s <br />No one knows what it is like in that rowboat in the ocean with no oars-sometimes they don't even want to know<br />Prayers!!!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16045973181179400022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-51677755471468636722019-10-15T19:22:56.313-07:002019-10-15T19:22:56.313-07:00No one knows!!!!No one knows!!!!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16045973181179400022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-79282526837954340722019-10-15T19:16:26.603-07:002019-10-15T19:16:26.603-07:00Leslie, you are so lovely, and i honor these words...Leslie, you are so lovely, and i honor these words from you. i honor your pain and how you are staying awake to it and making something beautiful with it. there are plenty of times i have gone to the canvas or piano or laptop without a plan - but with an openness to discover and a desire to allow beauty to flow. it's flowing from you, Leslie. i also honor that neighbor and the mystery of the exchange. plenty of folks believe they can appease the worry gods by worrying or can inoculate themselves from fear or tragedy by rehearsing horrific narratives. i have to wonder if at a subconscious level (oh dear lord, my shrink-y past surfaces) she wanted to inoculate you from your grief with a syringe of grief. to save you from perishing. by now you know i don't know anything at all though. except loveliness when i see it. like right here. xoxmichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04147970920141315262noreply@blogger.com