tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post2642124010373723514..comments2024-03-17T05:43:47.360-07:00Comments on Gwen Moss: Day 21: when choosing failure is the right thing to do…Leslie Harrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06367872267145012395noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-3038752855018083222014-10-28T17:35:59.104-07:002014-10-28T17:35:59.104-07:00the 'un-becoming!' yes! this is where my h...the 'un-becoming!' yes! this is where my head has been for a while now. it's the subtraction, the shedding of baggage, the re-learning that seems more important than additions of the new. re: pressure to blog. it's important that our blogs work for us and not the other way around. i won't be a slave to blogging. i do it when i want and write about what i feel like. i know this will change should i desire to get purrrrfessional which doesn't seem likely. michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04147970920141315262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-80260817825757621452014-10-28T17:09:32.914-07:002014-10-28T17:09:32.914-07:00Hello Leslie dear, I always find inspiration of so...Hello Leslie dear, I always find inspiration of some sort when I stop by your blog. This post definitely resonates with me. Too often we have to make choices that don't always resonate with the balance we want for our lives. I'm feeling my time is very squeezed with work, travel, blogging, community commitments and my boutique right now. I am a bit under the weather and took a day to re-balance my priorities today and it feels good to have time to catch up. I'm glad you made the choice to change direction in your decision and that beach bonfire looked so beautiful. Wonderful post my inspiring friend. xx Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17032908426814046368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-86919197655311187752014-10-23T13:58:59.924-07:002014-10-23T13:58:59.924-07:00Many a blogger has thrown in the towel for good af...Many a blogger has thrown in the towel for good after doing that 31 day challenge :) I think being forced (even though you want to do it) to do a post a day is more pressure than I could handle. I enjoy posting when and if I want and about what I want. I think you have the right thoughts on this. People you know and care about in real life are where your priorities should lie (lay?, lye?). And gosh, if I had that view I would sit around the fire pit every night! Pam Kesslerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14830005036551331029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-65661149491932655732014-10-23T01:11:26.621-07:002014-10-23T01:11:26.621-07:00Yes and Amen!
"It may be that when we no lo...Yes and Amen! <br /><br />"It may be that when we no longer know what to do, that we have come to our real work, and that when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey. " by Wendell Berry<br /><br />I hear you Leslie...xxJeanne Henriqueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07986759909478180763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-47067968094899319252014-10-22T13:58:49.074-07:002014-10-22T13:58:49.074-07:00I'm not a blogger, but do follow several, and ...I'm not a blogger, but do follow several, and it gets to the point when you can almost sense when a blogger is "forcing it". I would never want that to happen to you.<br /><br />Your posts are always articulate, well-thought out and profound in many ways. As a reader, I would never want you to feel obligated to produce material on a time-table. Life is crazy enough without the added stress of a deadline.<br /><br />Be true to yourself and what makes YOU happy !! Life comes first!<br /><br />Marilyn (in Dallas)Marilynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17567476808651276893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-53564048275881849702014-10-22T13:08:29.118-07:002014-10-22T13:08:29.118-07:00Re-assessing situations, being honest with yoursel...Re-assessing situations, being honest with yourself, and setting priorities isn't failure -- it's evidence of wisdom! I totally get it... as evidenced by my slower post pace these days.Susan Nowell @ My Place to Yourshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08220347296206361001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-35626471170454743572014-10-22T10:09:50.268-07:002014-10-22T10:09:50.268-07:00It's not failure, it's doing what feels ri...It's not failure, it's doing what feels right for yourself. Yes, I did take you up on the challenge, and do not want you to feel like you failed, or are jumping ship. I am just grateful that you reminded me, to stay grounded and in the moment. Each day brings new opportunities and we should feel free to enjoy them, not be obligated to blog. Thanks for sharing this, and I will happily continue to blog, if only for myself,to remind myself each and every day, that I have so much to be grateful for. Looking forward to reading about your adventures when you wish to share them. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02295822169141681152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-86811348799448406172014-10-22T02:49:59.024-07:002014-10-22T02:49:59.024-07:00so eloquently written and oh so true.
having sev...so eloquently written and oh so true. <br /><br />having several businesses i run around like a crazy woman trying to be everything for everybody and guess who loses in the end? untangling my life has to become a priority, you spoke to my soul.<br /><br />i am just meeting you via project design, love what i see and read here but as much as i want to write more frequently and visit other blogs, that is one area that gives a bit. my numbers are down, but it is ok. <br />be good to you<br />debradebra @ 5th and statehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18039580956294327582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-56423985120457894872014-10-22T02:41:40.971-07:002014-10-22T02:41:40.971-07:00I get it.I get it.karen@somewhatquirkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02772267613790523188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-22712886971024006302014-10-21T21:44:23.460-07:002014-10-21T21:44:23.460-07:00I too share your feelings and those of all these s...I too share your feelings and those of all these smart bloggers. I had to come to terms with this issue when my health had to become the priority in my life. Blogging had to take a back seat to almost everything and in alot of ways it was very freeing. Deadlines and coming up with ideas for a post seemed unimportant in the light of what I was dealing with. I love to blog and all the wonderful people and relationships that I've developed, so I hope it's something that I can continue. But I've realized that in the big picture of life, it has to be put in perspective. Posting when I have something to say is much easier than trying to manufacture an interesting post. I think you've learned a valuable lesson this month, not a failure at all!Debra@CommonGroundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04830455848744270459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-65556647827152755202014-10-21T21:00:09.787-07:002014-10-21T21:00:09.787-07:00Most definitely follow your heart. It is sooo not...Most definitely follow your heart. It is sooo not failure. It is changing your mind...and Heaven knows women change their minds all the time, right? A bonfire over a blog post? That's a no brainer girl. You did the right thing. I don't understand how people can already be publishing things about Christmas on their blogs...what happened to living in the moment?? If I can get a Halloween post out in early November I'll consider that success! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03696038457990956978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-7296608828363476442014-10-21T20:29:30.770-07:002014-10-21T20:29:30.770-07:00First things first.
Leslie! I just now realized t...First things first. <br />Leslie! I just now realized that I never actually "followed" you. You have been living on my sidebar. So...even though I have been visiting you for ages...I am your news "blogger" follower!<br /><br />My blogging started to fall off when my mother and father became ill this past Summer. <br /><br />Recently, I was asked to nearly double my work load at the clinic. Once again the blog has taken a back seat. The extra work will end in three days.<br /><br />I have found that blog friends can be quite forgiving. Most of us have a common thread. You, your family and your home is your first priority. Those that follow you "totally get it!"<br /><br />Thanks for lighting the fire!<br />~Lynne<br /> w/L.<br />Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00990373651788404672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-48039202413474587862014-10-21T18:38:57.815-07:002014-10-21T18:38:57.815-07:00Leslie, I can most certainly relate to this post. ...Leslie, I can most certainly relate to this post. I'm the one who hasn't posted anything new in over a month. Relationships have been my priority over everything this past month as I had to say goodbye to a very dear long time friend. It has left me with little enthusiasm for creating. <br />Posting every day is something I know I could not get done. I once joined a meme that required us to post once a week for 26 weeks ~ something related to a letter of the alphabet each week. I loved the idea! After all I collected alphabet books for close to 30 years. It was almost more than I could keep up with. I had the ideas, but the lack of time is what I found frustrating.<br />I always vote for following one's feelings. <br />I am eager to see your fall tablescape though. ;-)<br />Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01873375271470225199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-15890528278020763132014-10-21T18:24:41.661-07:002014-10-21T18:24:41.661-07:00Love it Leslie! And I wouldn't exactly use th...Love it Leslie! And I wouldn't exactly use the word "failure" just because it doesn't feel right for you! I think it is wonderful that you are acknowledging that this plan does not work for you. What makes you and your blog so inspiring is the fact that your words are coming from the heart. You are not forcing anything and you are making conscious choices. <br />Shelley<br /> Calypso In The Countryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264873052810117169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-70444629856547311592014-10-21T17:59:25.824-07:002014-10-21T17:59:25.824-07:00Oh yes!!
And with my two boys at home with us, an...Oh yes!! <br />And with my two boys at home with us, and them growing so fast. I seem to always choose the memories and not getting the nails done. I love my family time. And my outside time. If the Wisconsin weather is beautiful, I will sneak outside. :-)<br /> So some of my projects end up on the back burner for a long time. But I figure someday the boys will be off and married, and I can tackle them then. :-) <br />Carla from The Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12107829617899979937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-82339759366389044912014-10-21T17:59:06.790-07:002014-10-21T17:59:06.790-07:00You are such a smart woman! I'm lucky to blog...You are such a smart woman! I'm lucky to blog weekly these days. I do it now to share more with people who come into my shop, than anything else. I gave up on being a Blog Queen some time ago! I've also started to unconsciously limit the amount of time at other blogs, as so many of them focus on things like, how they rearranged their coffee table, or mantel. Isn't there more to life? Don't get me wrong, I love a pretty vignette (didn't know this word until blogging!), but there's so much more to life! Bon fire, on!<br />Cheers!,<br />Your former "neighbor", BarbaraBarbara Bussey {The Treasured Home}https://www.blogger.com/profile/01566967029105521709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-62440992493376722082014-10-21T17:34:11.758-07:002014-10-21T17:34:11.758-07:00Beautiful post ~ as usual. I would never refer to ...Beautiful post ~ as usual. I would never refer to this choice as failure. I think it's placing your priorities in the right places. I thought it might be fun to try this myself, thus my "or less" comment. :) I've never understood how anyone posts daily, especially those with children...little ones in particular. I'm retired and certainly have more time, however, I choose life and making memories.<br /><br />My intent is not to be a "negative nelly" but since losing Abby, the most important things in life take on a new meaning. I spent as much time with her and Alex as possible but it could never be enough. I'm really intent on "being" with family, friends and making memories now! <br /><br />The bonfire was an outstanding choice! :) I always look forward to a post or comment from you but guess what? Whenever is just perfect!<br /><br />xo<br />PatGypsy Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08776584538863129486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-47708515325253733462014-10-21T16:29:17.354-07:002014-10-21T16:29:17.354-07:00I can so relate, having to deal with what's go...I can so relate, having to deal with what's going on in my life and keeping to myself or sharing is a very hard choice for me to make. fondly ~lynne~Lynne (lynnesgiftsfromtheheart)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01257730471888896363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-58703688989845824152014-10-21T15:35:56.415-07:002014-10-21T15:35:56.415-07:00I can so totally relate! Patty/NSI can so totally relate! Patty/NSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-6198992139014424232014-10-21T14:43:25.268-07:002014-10-21T14:43:25.268-07:00Oh, I can so relate to this. At times, I fall into...Oh, I can so relate to this. At times, I fall into the trap of comparing myself to other women who just seem to be able to do it all. But then I remember that I chose to prioritize the things that always were and still are most important to me, and honestly, I wouldn't change a thing. <br /><br />I have copied the following from your post and plan to save it: "...choosing to fail at certain endeavors may be the absolute right choice at the moment...But at least when we fail, they will be the things that matter less in the end…to our deeper selves."<br /><br />I, along with your other followers, look forward to your posts. Go take care of yourself. We will be here when you return. Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17097193408202655479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-8913249791850137902014-10-21T14:39:36.798-07:002014-10-21T14:39:36.798-07:00I can so relate to this post...and I don't eve...I can so relate to this post...and I don't even blog! I always choose my kids and making memories...still do...and my sons are all 26+! Life is too short, not to do what's really important to us...and that could be different for any one of us. I've enjoyed these posts of yours...but I could skip a day or two! ;)Donnamaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978668649808777994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-49807962450701449832014-10-21T14:27:00.227-07:002014-10-21T14:27:00.227-07:00Leslie,
This resonates with me. We all try to be ...Leslie,<br />This resonates with me. We all try to be superwoman, but at the end of the day, we all have to do what our heart tells us works for us, right? I cannot blog every day, in fact when I started blogging I managed M-W-F posts and was hard pressed. Now I blog once a week and am so much happier not having the burden of a deadline that I can't always meet. Life is so much better when we take the time to do what we want/need to do.<br />xo,<br />Karen<br />P.S. I'm blogging about new blog friends tomorrow and you're on the list. I hope you'll visit.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08064699521293763744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-52504656413057528262014-10-21T14:20:30.155-07:002014-10-21T14:20:30.155-07:00I can sooo relate to this! And I don't think ...I can sooo relate to this! And I don't think of this as choosing failure, it's choosing to give yourself options. <br />I frequently stress about getting posts up, but then decide if I have to stop living my life to write about my life, I'm not living my well styled life. Funny, but the older I get the smarter I get about how I want to spend my time. <br />The bonfire looked amazing. <br />xo~JenniferJenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04723360304687997220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-67949767040905980402014-10-21T14:01:36.332-07:002014-10-21T14:01:36.332-07:00I realized a long time ago that blogging is awesom...I realized a long time ago that blogging is awesome and fun, but can totally take over your life. And as much as I love my blog friends, it's the people right in front of me that need to be my priority. And I choose to make them my priority! We make choices every single day about what is important to us and how to spend our time. And when my last day on earth comes, I'd like to think that I made mostly good choices! ... Yay for beach bon fires! That was most definitely a good choice!Sharon @ Elizabeth & Co.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14197078418514604572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5028673509424034947.post-3076135298758955592014-10-21T13:10:15.600-07:002014-10-21T13:10:15.600-07:00I vividly remember the moment when I realized I wa...I vividly remember the moment when I realized I wasn't <br />"Super Mom". KC was in the third grade . . . I was in my first year of teaching middle school . . . it was KC's birthday and I needed to send treats to school to celebrate . . . and I bought them. Things were crazy at school, JP had things going on, I was taking my final class to clear my credential, KC had dance and sports . . . you know the drill. And, I broke down and bought cupcakes.<br /><br />This post really resonates with me now that I finally have an answer for my health issue. It turns out that I am dangerously anemic - thus the fatigue and shortness of breath. I now know why I haven't felt up to doing everything and have barely accomplished anything. But, I don't know that I will go back to blogging 4 times a week. I think I will keep it at twice a week and I am okay with that. Having to take it easy has made me question what the most important things are. Steve just called to me to come see something Lulu was doing and I was typing a comment. I told him I couldn't come. But then, I stopped and went to laugh with him about Lulu's antics. Then I went back to finish the comment.<br /><br />I love when I see a post from you, but you don't have to post every single day . . . unless you want to!Art and Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09070124859845536964noreply@blogger.com